About this keynote

Customer retention is often treated as a numbers game, but in reality, it’s a deeply human issue. In this fresh and challenging talk, I wanted to uncover why so many brands struggle to hold onto their customers despite flashy loyalty schemes and constant “engagement” efforts.

We look at the difference between transactional loyalty (discounts, points, incentives) and emotional loyalty (connection, trust, and belonging), and argue that true loyalty can’t be bought, it must be earned.

Using insights from anthropology, human psychology, and real-world behaviour I’ll show how brands often focus on the wrong signals, measuring superficial metrics while missing deeper emotional needs.

Through practical examples and real-life case studies, I’ll give pointers about how to move beyond short-term tactics to foster genuine, lasting customer relationships.

The idea is to challenge audiences to rethink how they see loyalty; not as a reward system, but as a two-way, human-centric relationship built on respect, understanding, and value.

This talk will leave you questioning whether you’re truly serving your customers or just assuming you are.

Key Themes

  • Emotional Loyalty vs. Transactional Loyalty
    True loyalty stems from emotional connection, not discounts or incentives.

  • Misunderstanding Customer Needs
    Brands often measure the wrong things and miss what really matters to users.

  • Retention is Relational, Not Just Tactical
    Building loyalty is about long-term human relationships, not short-term tactics.

  • The Power of Anthropology and Human Behaviour
    Understanding human emotional drivers is key to fostering deeper brand loyalty.

  • Breaking the Myth of “Engagement”
    Engagement alone doesn’t mean loyalty; brands must look deeper.

  • Respect and Authenticity Matter
    Customers stay loyal when they feel genuinely valued, heard, and respected.

  • Practical Observation Over Guesswork
    Watching real behaviour reveals more about loyalty than relying on assumptions or surveys alone.

  • The Invisible Cost of Ignored Emotions
    Brands that fail to connect emotionally risk silent customer churn.

Ton Wesseling

Ton Wesseling

Founder of Conversion Hotel, Experimentation island, Experimentation Culture Awards.

Abi is a fit for any audience that wants to get a wake up call on anything User Experience. Powerful storytelling, strong knowledge, British humour and many years of experience. The attendees of your conference will adore her.

Find out about Conversion Hotel, Experimentation Island or the Experimentation Culture Awards

Ole Gregersen

Ole Gregersen

Conversionboost founder and host

As founder of the Conversionboost Conference in Copenhagen I have had the pleasure of presenting Abi Hough to 200 attendees from the picky danish optimization community  – and they loved it. With a sincere personal touch she proved to us all, that she has the master skills and extensive experience to support a keynote talk at a conference like ours. I would recommend Abi to anyone doing an event like ours.

Find out about the ConversionBoost conference.

Nicolai Høg

Abi Hough is a true jedimaster at this. 🔥

I was lucky to experience Abi’s presentation at Conversionboost. And she left her guard completely down and unfolded a great story. That captivated me and, I’m certain, others felt the same way.

She integrated a story on experimentation into her relationship with her son and other personal topics.

👉 It not only left me completely focused on her, but also humanized the performance greatly.

Jess V.

How to really tell a story, surprise and delight with Abi Hough serving up some wizz fizz that I ‘will share with my kids’. A great talk on the relationships brands have with the customers and how to build on that. I enjoyed thinking of CX in a different light.

Bringing your personality and even personal life onto stage is incredibly impactful.

Lucia van den Brink

Did Abi Hough say: pushing a baby into production 😂😂😂?! on stage. Legend.

Mart Mijatov, MBA

Loved your talk and how you highlighted the human side in our business endeavours. Fantastic ♡

Ben Labay

Mic drop. WELL STRUCTURED and almost BLUEPRINTED talk from Abi Hough on really really knowing your customers.

Christoph Rottler-Lavoie

The “Queen of Retention” striked again!